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Time for Tough Love

(Upon her departure from the Arcata residence of Jeremiah Rosado, this was offered to his parents through the poet’s then-current website.

This household was dissolved by three day notice served to young Jeremiah, who had spent our rent money on drugs)


Recorded Reading:


Time for Tough Love

When next it comes time to decide
Allow — or not — compassion override
All other self-considerations of

To make — or not — the sacrifice
To pay — or not — supportive price
Required of you — you think — by parent love

Toward such an ungrateful one
As you misfortunately call son
To guarantee him life in careless bliss

I would have you remember
A conscientious member
Of his household now sudden homeless is

Without refunded rental — without
Notice, and displaying it about
Not one shred of a conscience’s regret

That she be nearing sixty
And alone — yet more, disabled be
And worked towards this household’s betterment

And that of its image at large
Of which himself would take no charge
(More comfortable in a tenement)

Every day of her residency
Counts for naught to callused he
Entitled as he feels himself to be

A little god
Running roughshod
Over the most basic civility

As she depart
Her and her art
Allow her just quietly to observe

Exper’ience of
A tougher love
Might better his soul’s present growth now serve

Perhaps it would
Do him more good,
Give him the value of a family,

If he were made
To understand the price here paid
The consequences of his actions be

By knowing he
Will homeless be
Just as this helpless woman has become

Banished again
Walking in pain
Committed shelter uncommitted from


Among us, poets are ill paid. In order to continue her work, this one currently lives in her minivan, on an income of a fraction of our nation’s poverty level. If her work has moved, enabled or uplifted you, your contribution to this effort may be made at:



Published by Ana Daksina

Read worldwide half a million times, Ana Daksina is a Troubador of the coming age.

26 thoughts on “Time for Tough Love

    1. He did get one, actually ~ I saw him gainfully and enthusiastically employed about a year later. At that endeavor he must have failed because now he’s my targeter’s main assistant, and I wish he were still young enough for what dad does or doesn’t do to make a difference.

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    1. In ten years in the private room rental industry, just as you’ve never found reasonable tenants to stay long term, I’ve never found a reasonable situation in which to stay long term. I’ve tried as hard as I know you have. I think people are being literally driven crazy by many things, starting with microwave radiation overdose.


      1. Gosh, good luck ~ from what I’ve seen of my fellow impoverished I really want little to do with them either. It’s enough to make me happy to be stuck in my van with the curtains down ~ at least I don’t have to react to the kind of craziness going on out there as if it were anything close to acceptable adult behaviors, right? I really wish you well in finding the right tenants.

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      2. I think the years of working in mental health services has made it easy for me to tolerate quirky behaviors and less aggressive behaviors. I think we are going to do the one year with tenants. We have tenants now that check all the boxes, they look good on paper.

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  1. PS A word about the self defeating nature of the current records keeping /paperwork to which you refer: I’m the best tenant imaginable but on paper, thanks to a whole shortlist of societal glitches, you wouldn’t consider me even if I did have a realistic rent budget.

    From what you say, those who do look good on paper very often don’t live up to that promise.

    I’ve talked to enough homeless people to know that most of the time they were the responsible parties who made the sacrifices involved to walk away peacefully from untenable situations ~ leaving those behind both empowered and feeling guilty. A very dangerous combination for that newly disempowered peaceful person.

    Paperwork, as it’s structured among us ~ in a society in which even to check ones credit rating dings ones credit (!) ~ doesn’t mean much.

    Best of luck to you in our freaking-out world.


  2. Now I look at credit, job history, and references, and I rely on what is said between the lines. I have rented to those with bad credit. I have rented to people with good, and excellent credit. I think that it is the area we are renting from.
    I did do a short-term rental to a person who was homeless last year and we paid the person for work. It was one of the better tenants.
    A criminal background check is necessary because we have children. Sometimes, we stay on the property. I want to make sure we are safe. However, no system is perfect. We have had hoarders, animal hoarders, etc. I have had people with excellent landlord references. There is no rhyme or reason to how people act out.

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